Rowboating With Hobos

Doesn’t everyone fit somewhere on the autistic spectrum?


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I have three gifts: I can make an excellent cream soup, I’m a good speller, and most people who don’t think I’m a smartass or from Venus think I’m funny. Even my computer programmer ex-brother-in-law, who never laughs and is probably to some extent autistic, admits that I have a “sophisticated sense of humor.” My wife, Cristina, however, didn’t think I was funny. She took all my remarks literally. I’d say to her, “Why don’t we walk to the store on our hands today?” and Cristina would frown and say, “No we can’t do that.” Then I would say, “We’ll hitchhike to Rapid City then, catch a freight train back before dark,” and Cristina would shake her head somberly and frown. She couldn’t fathom why I might want to hitchhike to Rapid and return by freight train or walk on my hands or steal a helicopter or go rowboating with hobos or contact my home planet or pull my pants down in front of the queen.

When you read as much as I have about autism, everyone after a while begins to look autistic, everyone fits somewhere along the spectrum, just as it was a few years ago when it was discovered that we are all gay, that we all fit somewhere along that spectrum. (I suppose, consistent with this argument, we all fit along the heterosexual spectrum as well.) It was interesting to see how many traits Cristina shared with our son, traits that in his case were numbered as symptoms under the broad canopy of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD): literal-mindedness, awkward personal interaction, dearth of social interest (except with family members), hypersensitivity to stimuli, wandering attention, lack of empathy, rages when rituals were disrupted. Some of these traits, in Christina’s case, could be chalked up to her having been struck senseless by a drunk driver in Zacatecas many years before, but she admits that she’s always been spacey and not too social, that her personality hadn’t changed markedly since it was formed.

That made me reflect on what my retired NASA electrical engineer friend told me after my remark about the preponderance of mathematicians bunched along the autism spectrum. He’d known a number of high-functioning autistics at NASA. One in particular, an eccentric experimental physicist named Bunthram, insisted, “I’m not autistic. I’m Bunthram.” Bunthram didn’t believe in autism. What most people considered autism, Bunthram considered part and parcel of the genetic bundle of the logical mind. Furthermore, Bunthram didn’t want to be social or touched or to go play volleyball, square dance, or sit around a bonfire singing “Kookaburra Sits on the Old Gum Tree.” He wanted to work and be left alone. He liked his one-dimensional life and his job and his apartment, his cats and the TV shows Battlestar Galactica, Airwolf, and Charmed. He thought most people were over socialized, but that was their business. His hero was Nikola Tesla, one of the landmark intellects of all time, who wouldn’t have achieved that height without his ASD tendencies toward isolation, celibacy, pattern obsession, ritualism, and the rest of that prototypical geek package.

I am always relieved to turn to optimistic views on autism. I have long suspected that autism is a natural intellectual function correlating to our increasing need for specialized, nonlinear, incoherent, and advanced thinking styles and not a disease or a developmental disorder. The work of Simon Baron-Cohen, not the comedian but the psychopathologist (do they call you a “psychopath” for short, Simon?) at Cambridge University, illustrates this view. Baron-Cohen has been doing genetic research on autism for years and has theorized that most autistics have a drive to systemize. Mathematicians, physicists, engineers, logicians, number theorists, software programmers, and quantum cryptographers are all good examples of systemizers, and in each of these fields, you’ll find higher rates of autism.

Systemizers are much more likely to be male as well as autistic. About 80% of all autistics are male. Baron-Cohen proposes that autism is therefore an extreme male-brained profile. But this doesn’t make it inherently psychopathological. In fact, autistics by their asocial predispositions, narrow preoccupations, tendencies toward ritual and repetition, sensory filtering, and so on, are able to work long periods without distractions on deep projects that might bore other people to death. Think space travel and the overall management of a cyber-connected universe.

At the end of any spectrum is dysfunction, chaos, madness, disease, and snack machines getting pushed over. On the political continuum both the left and the right lead unimpeded to totalitarianism. And I wouldn’t want to rely too heavily on psychology or go all New Age on you and declare that autism is a gift. It does however seem possible that with its considerable claim on the population, its numerous talented representatives, its frequent association with rapid brain growth, and its continued ability through exhaustive research to evade cause or cure, what we’re calling autism (and the heavy psychological inference of abnormality or disorder) might well instead be cerebral evolution.

Cristina is a systemizer too. She gravitated to a profession — dentistry — that demands close attention to detail along with emotional distance from the pain and patients she is literally inside of. Often on Saturdays when we were courting in Mexico she couldn’t go out because she had to “organize” her room. Everything in our house has a place. I don’t get to put anything where I like, even the end table with my books, which I find in a neat stack each time I sit down to read. Whenever she works with me, whether cooking in the Olde Main kitchen or on a side job I pick up, we end up arguing before we do things her way. I am constantly startling her as I come around a corner or out of a room, even though she knows I am in the house. Faithfully, like a prisoner in solitary, she’ll put an X through each day on the calendar with a black ink pen. Staring at me as I explain something to her, she’ll say when I was through, “You need to trim your eyebrows.” She’d check the dishes after I washed them, remake the bed the way she liked it, refold the clothes after I’d done laundry, tell me what shoes to wear, much of this leading to an argument, since it seemed to me more like nagging and controlling than her drive to systemize. Her job as a dental assistant is extremely important to her, and she puts so much into her work (she’s the best worker I’ve ever known) that she barely has the energy to quarrel when she gets home in the evenings.

Most noteworthy in all of this is that at the other end of Baron-Cohen’s systemization spectrum, as we part from masculine science and sine-cosine-tangents, we find the feminine empathizers, those who have the ability to identify with others, read facial expressions, imagine how others feel, make a crawfish étouffée with steamed asparagus and jasmine rice, give change to panhandlers, and not intentionally say hurtful or antagonistic things. As a rule, systemizing and empathizing are opposed. If you’re strong on systemizing, you don’t want some goober to come along and mess it all up. If you’re long on empathizing, it isn’t likely that you’d stare willingly into an electron microscope for 12 hours or obsess about how the pillows are arranged on the couch. Systemizers are rule-based, less flexible, and more inclined to stick to patterns and positions. Empathizers are more emotionally oriented, free form in approach, care less about rules than getting along, and usually give in when the argument starts because, really, what difference does it make what shoes I wear if I’m driving you all the way to Omaha?

Whether you believe that autism is a blessing or a curse, the result of an SV40 monkey-virus mutation (if you’re interested in this angle, read Edward Haslam’s Dr. Mary’s Monkey) or the mercury-destruction of mitochondria, having a sense of humor is your pass out of ASD. Autistics are rarely funny, the reason both Einstein and Steven Haataja should be excluded from the list. Cristina is funny, too; she’ll say that she looks like a fish or that I look like a homeless guy. Still, my droll, ironic style evaded her for years because she fielded every line I delivered literally. Most of this had to do with language, humor being one of the last things you learn in a new country.

But one day after Cristina had described a tyrannical dental patient from Virginia who’d been told to leave the office due to the volume of abuse she’d heaped on everyone, especially Cristina, I said, “Why didn’t you just keep tipping back the chair until she slid out?” As usual Cristina only stared at me, trying to ferret out whatever nasty thing I might’ve been implying. And then the outlandish justice of what I’d suggested suddenly hit her, her face relaxed and opened, her eyes fluttered, and she broke into a grin and laughed. And the way she stared at me for the next thirty minutes was like six years of reassessment, as if she were recalling all the other jests and joshes and jocularities delivered solely to relieve tension and make life a little more pleasant and bearable. It was a revolutionary moment, a watershed moment, like rods of dusty sunshine poking through holes in penitentiary walls. Once she understood that I wasn’t criticizing or incriminating her or making preposterous suggestions to confuse her or tarnishing her public image or intimating that I didn’t love her anymore, we had our first cease-fire.

“Rowboating With Hobos” is adapted from Love & Terror on the Howling Plains of Nowhere by Poe Ballantine, and reprinted from The Sun, February 2014, with permission of the author.

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