Money-Healing Mirroring Technique That Works!

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The seeds of unworthiness are often sown in childhood — whether consciously or not. If you had parents or a teacher who were hard to please, and you had to really work to earn their love and approval, you may have interpreted that to mean you weren’t inherently worthy of love and approval. If you had a bully in childhood or any experiences that made you feel you weren’t enough, those stored traumas and trapped feelings become your money shame wound.

I have young kids of my own now, and they remind me all the time just how big their feelings are. And just how sensitive they are. And just how powerful words can be. And just how easily words can be misinterpreted.

As a kid, it’s easy to feel lonely and misunderstood when well-meaning adults say things like, “You’re okay,” when you truly do not feel okay. Or they say, “You can do better next time,” when you really just needed to hear, “You did your best, and your best was good enough. You’re amazing.” Only you know what it felt like to be you during those experiences.

Although it’s normal to wish the adults in your life had done better and said the right words in the right moments, these wounds are actually yours to heal. As long as you keep looking to your parents, your boss, your partner, your clients, or to money to tell you how worthy you are of your dreams and love and acceptance — you’ll continue feeling “not enough” because those people and those things cannot give you the potent, healing medicine you need. Only you can. And that’s a really good thing! We often think the past is in the past and there’s nothing that can be done about it. But there’s so much that can be done, and the impact is profound.

Changing the way you think and feel about yourself is an important component of the deep, potent medicine that heals your money shame wound. Mirror work is a simple yet powerful way to shift your thoughts and feelings about yourself.

Before I started mirror work, looking in the mirror was mostly centered around my physical appearance — doing hair and makeup, deciding if I liked an outfit — and my thoughts about myself would range from neutral to critical. It honestly never once occurred to me it might be beneficial to look myself in the eyes and say kind things or to express self-love. When my daughter talks about the list of things she loves, she includes herself on that list, and it just blows me away every time. I don’t ever remember a conscious choice to withhold love from myself — self-love simply wasn’t something I considered at all.

But choosing to look at yourself in the mirror and say kind things to yourself can really change your view of your self-worth in a hurry. When I do mirror work, I like to look at myself and speak to the person in the mirror as “you” instead of “me” or “I.” Both work, though you can experiment to see what feels best to you.

When you practice self-talk or affirmations, you can be as specific as feels good. Anytime you notice any internal resistance, it’s a cue to be more general. Remember that affirmations and mirror work won’t work if you fight them, so make sure you choose statements that feel good while you are saying them.

Here are some examples for you to try.

Super Specific
*Note these can be statements that are true right now and/or aspirational.

“You are soooo worthy of love. I love you so much. You excel at making money. You charge $1,000/hour because you are so skilled and gifted, and your gifts are so valuable when you share them with your clients. You are speaking on stages and being recognized in your industry as a thought leader and change maker. You are changing your family tree with the wealth you generate.”

Less Specific
*These statements will be more universally true.

“You are worthy of praise. You are worthy of admiration. You are worthy of being well paid. I love you so much. There’s nothing you could ever do or say to make me love you any less. Every day you are believing more and more in your gifts. Everyday you’re seeing the evidence of how much your gifts help others and how valuable you are. You are worthy because you are.”

Very General
*Sometimes “I am” or “you are” statements feel untrue. If you notice resistance to them, simply say the words without the “I am/you are” part, and you’ll still begin to energetically align to the vibration of that word.

“Wealthy and worthy. Wealthy and worthy. Wealthy and worthy.”

“I am open to the possibilities of my gifts. I’m willing to see the value of my work from a new perspective. I’m willing to believe that self-love is possible for me, and it can grow over time.”

Mirror work takes some practice and devotion. You might need to put a sticky note on your mirror to remember to make time for this work. I also recommend that you attach this new habit to an existing, established habit, like brushing your teeth — a practice called habit stacking. You can even do your mirror work while brushing your teeth to make it easy.

As mirror work becomes a habit, you’ll begin to experience a significant shift in how you feel about yourself. And after a couple of weeks, you should find you’re able to move from more general self-talk to more specific self-talk and feel really good.

Congratulations on doing this deep money-healing work! It’s a gift that will serve you now and for the rest of your life as you build wealth, step into your gifts, and believe you’re worthy of everything you desire.

Excerpted with permission from Wounds to Wealth: The Life-Changing Method of Diagnosing & Healing Money Wounds to Receive More Wealth by Emily June Wilcox (2024, Em Makes Money Publishing)

Emily June Wilcox is an author, speaker, and entrepreneur. She hosts The Joyous Path to Millions podcast and coaches women to heal their money wounds, make bank in their businesses, and walk the joyous path to millions. She lives in Southern California with her husband and two kids.

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