Invest in Relationships

Most of our deepest pain seems to come from relationships of one kind or another. Since we invest most of our time and energy in relationships, we are most likely looking for a “good return” on our investment and are upset when we don't get it. Today, love is more a transaction.

The head thinks, "However much I give, I should also get back!" It's not surprising that divorce rates have soared over the past decade. As we are not getting the yield we seek, in this age of instant gratification, we move on to another investment.

Spirituality is based on relationships and asks that we invest in our self and one other key relationship as its foundation — that is, with the Supreme, the Source. Once we begin to experience profit in that relationship we are then able to share the dividends with all those around us. In fact, since almost everyone is spiritually bankrupt, this is the only relationship on which I can stake my spiritual and emotional wealth.

Spirituality is a deep realization that no man is an island and we have to live in a commune, community, and in communication with others to survive and develop as a whole person and as a society. As much pain as there is in relationships there is also learning and tons of love to be harvested.

Only when I am grounded in spirituality and have started my own journey of knowing my self, which leads me to know the Supreme, can I truly reap pure love and, more importantly, bring forth that pure love into other relationships. My attention is no longer focused on the transaction and potential profits and I can begin to accept others as they are. In this context bartering may not be a bad idea — an exchange of quality from a recognized place of worth.

It is crucial that we now invest in loving relationships with all our spiritual siblings. The secret is to give without expectation. Easier said than done, no doubt, but is there any other choice? If I am to live on and share this planet, let me continue to plant the seeds of love and compassion with my heart and not my head, knowing that whatever seeds I plant, I will get the return multimillion fold!

Om Shanti (I am a peaceful soul)

Contributed by Brahma Kumaris World Spiritual Organization. Please visit or call 617-926-1230 to learn more about the Brahma Kumaris Learning Center for Peace in Watertown, MA.